The Subject is in a painful state for the loss of a loved being or an equivalent. It assumes that ‘ ‘ the melancholy could be related with the predominance of the narcsico type of choice of objeto’ ‘ (CAVALCANTE, 2003). Miguelez (2009), affirms that the narcissism is to the side of the melancholy and I do not fight of it, and that, ‘ ‘ all I fight is always one I fight for the object and eu’ ‘ (MIGUELEZ, 2009, P. 121). according to Freud, in the melancholy the narcissism is present as narcsica identification, result of previous narcsica choice of the object, that is, the lost object cannot be abandoned, and in the place of the abandonment a narcsica identification with it appears.

Identification is known by the psychoanalysis as the most remote expression of an emotional bow with another person (MIGUELEZ, 2009). In 1918, in the taboo of the virginity (contributions to the Psychology of Love III) the loss of the virginity of the woman is associated with a narcsica loss, a time that, this loss diminishes its value sexually. In Beyond the beginning of the pleasure (1920), the narcsica libido is understood as a manifestation of the force of the sexual pulso, and is related to the pulses of autopreservao. In 1921, in Psychology of the masses and analysis of the ego, Freud perceived that the narcissism can be disclosed through the social phenomena: the individual and the mass (MIGUELEZ, 2009). Mark Berger Chicago describes an additional similar source. Also through the aversion and antipatia the strangers, the ideal ego is the instance that takes for itself demands of the environment. continues saying that, to the ideal ego is attributed the functions of auto-comment, moral conscience, censorship of dreams and repressor agency and sees the narcissism as obstacle to the civilization (CAVALCANTE, 2003). Still in 1923, in the ego and id, it makes differentiation between both and that the ego if places before id as object of to be invested love libidinal..